Girls, Let’s Leap!

I’m sitting in a small group surrounded by women whom I have just met hours ago.  One by one, questions are asked by our leader.  The answers are slow coming and, for the most part, shallow.  Then one takes her leap of faith.  As her story unfolds, I feel tense and motionless. All I can see are her pained eyes and all I can see is  the beauty of her heart yearning for Jesus. As her tears begin to flow I feel my own cheeks warm up and my hands get clammy. This is uncomfortable. Yet I’m still captured by her gut wrenching honesty.  Then she speaks of a deep pain, an emotional burden, and I feel my own eyes fill with hot tears. Of course, I do the fast blinking thing and hope nobody is watching me and the emotions that threaten to bubble to the surface.  I must look away.  My heart can’t take much more without a breakdown of my own…

Why is other’s pain uncomfortable for the rest of us?

I am inspired to explore this question from Rory‘s comment on my post, A Process of Healing.

“God sees your heart dear friend… others, mostly see what they want to see, or look right past you because they have their own hurt to hide. Pain makes people uncomfortable, but if we all did better at sharing out burdens: then we could see one another as He does.” 

This morning I took my own leap of faith.  I spilled my guts and left nothing out. Every woman listening now knows the truth about me.

I blow up when things don’t go right.
Beer or vodka are how I nurse myself through the pain.
I am generally struggling with anger that spills out into every area of my life.
And, obviously, the presence of God feels far from me.

Saying all these things wasn’t easy. I felt warm and sweaty all over. My voice felt shaky and I wondered if this was all too much too soon.  I was uncomfortable.

For me, there were a few commonalities in hearing someone’s struggle and sharing my own:

Emotional connection.

The last one stands out to me.  Freedom. There is freedom in sharing our lives with each other. The woman I talked about at the beginning gave our group the opportunity to pray for her and watch God work in her heart in those moments and possibly in the time to come.

Did you ever think about it being a blessing to be able to pray for someone so intimately?
I hadn’t thought of it that way, either.

But it is, because that’s what I was told this morning after showcasing my dirty laundry.

As strange as it seems, even to me, there CAN be freedom in Christ.  I haven’t always experienced that freedom, though. But maybe I was doing it wrong.  Or perhaps I had to be THERE to be HERE.

I grew up in church.
I have been loved by church people.
I have been hurt by church people.
Church is made up of people.  One of them is me.

Sharing our burdens is hard.  It’s hard to watch and it’s hard to do.

But if we can each begin to take our leap of faith, even just one at a time, think about how much stronger the church can be. 

I am not alone in my fits of temper.
I am not the only one who uses alcohol to numb and ignore the pain.
I am not the only angry woman.
I am not the only one feeling far from God.

But with one leap, I am one step closer to a renewed heart.  

So, leap with me girls! 


8 thoughts on “Girls, Let’s Leap!

  1. No you are not alone. I feel so far away from God right now that I wonder where the heck he is. I've had those who tell me it is okay to be angry with him. I am angry. I am mad as hell. I have drowned a few sorrows in vodka. It does help to numb me. But now I want the pain to stop. I want the anger to go away. I want to feel God love me like I hear that he loves so many others……Thank you so much for being so open and so honest. I want to leap with you my friend.


  2. Your words bring tears to my eyes. While I have never been in your shoes, I do understand the emotion. It's enough to make us want to sometimes do the unthinkable. Just keep leaping, my friend. You leap daily in the words you write. 🙂


  3. It is HARD to put yourself out there like that, HARD to make yourself vulnerable, but you are so right about how freeing it is to do that. You are definitely not alone in your fits of anger; at my house we refer to it as when I've climbed the crazy tree.


  4. I belong to a Couples small group and attend almost every Thursday. We are honest with each other and share in each other's trials. It's therapeutic and refreshing to know we all struggle and we're not alone.


  5. Smiling so big for you right now my friend! God calls us to draw near to Him — just as we are with all that STUFF that binds us up and holds us back. And it's absolutely true – it holds us back from one another too. We can't truly love another, until we truly SEE one another: and that often means being authentic. It's all it's glory… and dirt!
    I once talked to an abuse survivor who said that she lived in such perpetual darkness as a result of her inner pain — that every time she spoke that pain – let the words out – it was a like a wild little ray of light piercing that darkness. And if she could get All The Words out, then just maybe all that resulting Light might actual drive that darkness out. And she could see … AND be seen. I thought that was brilliant.
    Glad my comment helped ❤


  6. It is HARD. Even after it's HARD. But there is still truth in it – although I struggle with whether or not I share TOO much. I really appreciate your understanding and saying that you ahve some of the same struggles. We are all imperfect humans, after all.


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