R is for Rewards.
I have found that a reward system for my kids work great. It coincides with the idea of consequences. The key is knowing what motivates my kids. Some rewards are unhealthy, some they will work very hard for and some they won’t give a flying hoot about.
For instance, Marie has an obsession with food. Therefore, I don’t offer her food rewards of any kind. She does love stickers which is an incredibly easy reward to offer for something tiny like blowing her nose on her own or for getting a perfect score on a quiz or worksheet. Then there are some bigger rewards she would just die for: The movie Frozen. Time to make jewelry with her gazillions of beads. A shopping excursion or a trip to the salon. Those are pretty big deal rewards for her.
Michael is a little more complicated. He is moody and broody at times so different rewards engage him. Today he was not happy about speed walking through the mall. All we had to do was pick up my wedding ring and then we were done and headed to 5 Guys for lunch. So we were speed walking – which is close to running for small people. After getting our ring I decided: “Hey! Whoever gets to the van first gets a peep!” We brought some easter loot on our day trip into the “big city” and Michael was most excited about the peeps. This worked magnificently. He ran and gloated about winning and then ran some more. Yup, he won.
What kind of rewards work for your kids?